Almost every expat undergoes an emotional struggle when they realize that they’ve left all of their friends and family behind in their home country. Once you’ve overcome homesickness, the next step is to socialize with those in your new environment. It is not as much fun to explore a new city alone or to eat a new place without any company. Socializing is not an ‘art” nor a ‘skill’ that can be learned/taught in school; it is a gift that is honed through time. In this article, we present a few tips that will come in handy when you are trying to strike a friendship with someone you have recently met.
Talk a Lot
Being too shy will never give other people a chance to know you. Think about the topics you are interested in and do some homework on the subject. If you are passionate enough, words will flow with ease. Meet people who seem to be into the same topics – be it GOT or US politics and strike up a conversation with like-minded personal with zero hesitation.
Look the Part
Being a slob when you attend parties or events may drive people away. When you are well dressed, you will more or less feel confident about yourself. A confident personality tends to attract more people towards them. Do your hair the way you like and put on a fashionable outfit before you head out. Lastly, look yourself in the mirror and give yourself some positive affirmation – you’ll be more prepared than ever before.
Body Language
You don’t need to necessarily say something to let those around you know you are a friendly person. Sport a smile when meeting someone and avoid gestures that may seem closed off such as folded arms, a frowning expression, and lack of eye contact. When you talk to someone, show that you are invested in the conversation by slightly mirroring their body language and paying attention to them.
It Has to be You
Instead of waiting for everyone to come behind you, try to set things in motion from your side. Be the first to start a conversation and try to stay in touch with them. Plan occasional outings instead of just expecting someone else to do it for you. Avoid judging your newly made friends from their lifestyle choices. Be open to expressing your emotions and try to be there for your friends when they need emotional support.
Be Yourself
Avoid trying to be someone who you are not! You do not have to pretend to like something to make people around you happy – in fact; this might have a negative impact and land you among a wrong group of people. Never sport a different persona – stay genuine and the right friend will come to you.
